This week, Arthur is off from work. He had some vacation days to use up before May. I explained to him in advance that I still needed to stick to my weekly schedule, so we can get things done and make all of our appointments. I warned him about my grocery shopping, too - that I go to more than one store and use LOTS of coupons, so checking out can be time consuming. He acted as though he understood.
We went to Meijer after taking Iris and Lily to preschool. Arthur seemed pretty on board with going down almost every aisle, in search of the exact items on my list - NO DEVIATING from the list! :) He entertained Addy in the cart for most of the trip. At the checkout, I had $20 worth of coupons to use. He loaded the cart back up with the bagged groceries, while the cashier struggled with some of the Meijer website coupons. She was very patient and gracious, checking to make sure each one went through and apologized to me that their own coupons were causing problems. I apologized to the man behind us in line; he was very nice and talked to Addy for part of the time. After several minutes, we were finished and were able to leave. He seemed okay with time it took, after I said "we saved $20 with coupons and even more with the sales that went along with those coupons".
Then we went to Walgreens...
I made the mistake of saying it should be a short trip at Walgreens. He sat in the car with Addy, and I thought it would be just a few minutes of me inside the store. Well,.... they were out of several of my sale and stock up items, so I adjusted my list. Then, I had trouble finding a few items (not placed or sorted where I thought they'd be), so I guess my "few minutes" was more like 15 minutes. He ended up coming in with Addy and was NOT happy. I had 2 trips through the checkout and he couldn't believe it. I explained that I needed to use the money back on the first round to pay for part of the second round. He rolled his eyes and made a comment in front of the cashier that I thought was disrespectful to me.
When we got in the car, he got pretty mad that I didn't call him to say what was taking so long and that he had sat in the car for 15 minutes. I, of course, started crying (HORMONES!), saying how embarrassed I was that he spoke to me like a child in front of the cashier. I was so mad. I didn't talk to him for a while. I dropped him and Addy (and all the groceries) off at home before heading to my last 2 stores and then to pick up the girls. I was still very angry with him.
The more I thought about it, the more I realized I forgot that he doesn't shop weekly like I do (or EVER for that matter). I can say I warned him, but he doesn't get it as far as the time I put into grocery planning and shopping in order to save a decent amount of money.
He told me later he promises never to shop with me again. I agreed that would probably be best. :) I know he's happy I'm saving us money and stocking up on things we need, but I also know that he'd rather just leave it all to me and stay out of it. :)
I love him for his willingness to tag along today. I love him even more for recognizing that his place is NOT with me in the grocery store.
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